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The Humiliation Wound

French author Lise Bourbeau describes humiliation as an emotional trauma that influences our behavior into adulthood. This is particularly true when a parent or early caregiver says or does something that creates a feeling of shame about our body or our natural bodily functions, between the ages of one and three.

In this article we will cover the humiliation wound and:

  • Find out what mask your ego puts on to avoid the pain associated with this wound and how it manifests through your behavior (withdrawn, dependent, masochist, controlling or harsh).

  • Learn to identify what activates your wound.

  • Learn how to begin healing.

The Humiliation Wound

This wound will cause us to take on self-masochistic behavior manifested by:

  • Feeling like we're constantly being observed or judged.

  • Doing everything to be worthy in the eyes of God or those we love.

  • Serving everyone we love (without paying attention to our own needs).

  • Showing great restraint with our words.

  • We suppress our sensual drive (subconsciously it feels wrong to be sensual).

  • It feels like we'll get punished if we indulge by excessively enjoying life.

  • We always put the needs of others above our own (leading to resentment & burnout).

  • Feeling sloppy, dirty, or unworthy.

  • We compensate for different needs with food; it feels like it's easy for us to gain weight.

  • A talent for making people laugh, but often by mocking or humiliating ourselves.

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How do wounds get activated?

Every day we go from one wound to another depending on the circumstances and people around us.

  • The wound can be activated by somebody’s attitude or behavior towards us.

  • It could also be activated by our attitude towards someone else.

  • We can also activate it ourselves by our attitude towards ourselves.

Where do emotional wounds come from?

On a soul level we come into this lifetime to evolve through the experiences that transform us and teach us the meaning of love itself. When we refuse to accept our experiences for what they are (opportunities to discover who we really are) and instead insist on assessing them endless, we experience guilt, fear, regret and we perpetuate self-defeating behaviors that doe not serve the best version of who we are. It is our soul's mission to learn to fully accept our experiences as they are. In essence, we allow ourselves to experience our emotions without getting stuck in them. We learn to stay centered in knowing we are always learning from our own experiences. Everything we experience without acceptance accumulates in our body, our energy and our emotions. Until we start addressing these stuck emotions, many of us will continue to get stuck in self-defeating behavior patterns that do not align with our vision of success and abundance.

According to soul wound expert Lise Bourbeau, and past-life regression guru Dr. Michael Newton, before we are born into this lifetime, we choose what karma or “spiritual luggage” we want to work on or settle in this incarnation. The vast majority of us are not consciously aware of this from birth, it is only with time that you slowly begin to realize what your life plan is and what you should regulate in it (with the help of your intuition to guide you on your path).

We all come into the world and experience emotional wounds that we must learn to work through, and learn from.